Sometimes, we are too caught up with the things that we do not want that we often forget to count our blessings. The things that we have in life might not be the things that we want that may be is the reason why we never notice it. If you want to make a mess out of your life, then focus your energy on the things that you DO NOT want.
Do you know that this kind of mind-setting is actually a trap? You get stuck at such thoughts far longer than you can imagine. It is a vicious cycle where you can get lost in. Try doing this:
Observe the things that are happening in your life right now. Look around.
Observe yourself. Notice yourself disliking some of the things around.
Do you notice yourself feeling sad, angry, irritated, fear or any other bad emotions?
How do you think can you change your attitude of dislike towards those things? What does it take to like them?
Consider making the effort and taking the time to change what you dislike and how you might make things worst instead of changing them.
Do you feel trapped, frustrated and or depressed because of this realization?
Does watching television, eating, drinking, surfing the internet or checking your mail make you feel better? Do what it takes to make you feel better. Detach yourself from the negative emotions.
Did you feel a sort of relief after the distraction? What measures did you take to make you feel better?
Repeat the steps after taking some time for relaxation.
Have you ever experienced a similar pattern to the steps above? I bet that similar patterns are in succession in your life right now. There might be some variations but more or less, you will find the similarities.
What events or situations result in this kind of pattern? Do you ever encounter a similar pattern ruling your relationships at times? Are these patterns evident in your work or job? Is this pattern evident in your current living situation? Is this evident in your health?
Below are examples of patterns that you might use in running your finances:
What are the triggering factors that bring negative thoughts about your finances? In what form? Is it through a billing statement from the bank, an article post about money, the uselessness of your wallet, or the oil prices at the gas station? Internal stimuli can also perhaps trigger a random thought about money.
Are your finances where you want them to be? If not, observe closely. Do you have enough cash flow or is your source of income not enough for your splurging hobbies, or are you in too much debt? Are you experiencing all of these at the same time?
Your financial situation has taken its toll on your mood. You are upset about how things are not the way you want them to work. Your situation has worsened.
What are the things that you should do to get the money to pay off your debts and increase your income?
Hard work and unpleasant yet necessary changes will be important to regain your financial stability. But are you sure you are not going to fail this time?
You will feel frustrated, stressed and overworked. In the end, you will find yourself giving up.
Comfort yourself by surfing the internet. Go watch a movie. Eat. Do anything to make you feel better.
Feel the release of negative energy. Take a deep breath, and then exhale slowly.
Take yourself to bed. Wake up the next day and repeat the process until you have deleted all the negative emotions you have primarily associated with this activity.