ALL ABOUT YOU
People as we are, we tend to put ourselves last in everything. Our goals are often than not put aside to make way for the goals and ambitions that the persons dear to us have or want to achieve. It is almost a cliché to hear the answer of someone asked about why she took up nursing: “It is the course that my parents wanted me to take so that I can go abroad and earn millions.” Or, “I want to help my family”.
The new rule here now is to put yourself first instead of always thinking about the welfare of others. It does not also mean that you will entirely forget about lending a helping hand for others, what is meant by this is that instead of worrying about the business of others, think of your own problems first. We also have this tendency of noticing so much the negative characteristics or actions of others, always finding ways to criticize the things that they do, blaming them for their failures and gossiping this and that about him or her. What do you think is being put to the mix in this matter? Why do you think that the issue of others attracts us so much? Why is it that we find ourselves involved with the persons who are responsible for our failures and sadness, who are critical and even judgmental? And why is it that we do not feel the same amount of curiosity and interest for the people around who encourage us in achieving our goals and aspirations, those who love us and give us support?
How do you view yourself? Do you expect your views and opinions to be valued and heard? Do you want others to look up to you or do you expect them to treat you unfairly, judge you, abandon you and stay away from you? Unravelling is the term used to describe the patterns in your behaviour and thoughts that you are starting to take note of. Instead of saying that “it was fate that made it happen..or I really had no idea it would end up like this”, the usual clichés for actions that we have no knowledge of, we now will take full responsibility and control over the things that happen to us, thus, we will now start living with consciousness.
Before you blurt out anything, make sure that you have thought of it consciously. Listen to the chatter or talk that goes on inside your head, how you react to circumstances and situations involving other people. Attune yourself to your habitual reactions, be in charge and notice how much negativity you are illustrating in your head about culture, beliefs and stories of events that does not even concern you in any way. Then, when you are in a state of complete awareness, you can now sit down and start rewriting the script you have for yourself and life. Get rid of the bad thoughts and reactions you have and trade it with supportive and positive ones.
What are the things that you need and want? Do you desire to attract these to your life? Who are the people you look up to and attract you the most? It is time to shove that pointing finger down your pockets because you are also getting rid of the blaming scheme entirely.
Surround yourself with as much positive energy as you can in order for the attraction that your bring into your life be pleasant and instead of criticizing and putting you down, you will find people actually affirming you for your ways of being and thinking. Find out the reasons why you are attracted to a certain individual instead of complaining about those that do not match up with you!
Working as a team is much better than working alone. Dreams and ambitions are more achievable if we have others alongside us who will make things more fun and easier. We all need a little encouragement to reinforce our actions. Instead of berating yourself for your failures, positive coaching is way more effective compared to the latter. Yes, things that are not working need to be addressed too in such a way that it comes out as something you can learn from instead of feel bad about. Failure and disappointments are stepping stones toward success; they are our source of guidance to choose the right path next time when such an incident happens again. If things do not work out the first time, you still have a next time to perfect it.
Consciousness and determination will permit you to live your expressions in life to the fullest giving you full command of you choose to be, who you want to be with. Do not block this process with unresolved feelings of pain and hurt. Cleanse your feelings completely. Co-creation makes goals more fun and exciting. The people around should be our positive energies that compels us to be the best of who we are.